Missing Perspective

" All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them. " Galileo Galilei
When I think of criticism I think of it as unknown truth you have yet discover or accept of yourself. We feel that we are general aware of character flaws and our better points but we are only experiencing our own outward perception. Sometimes we need someone else to point out what we are not seeing. When you receiving criticism you can either deny it’s truth or be open to an unknown factor you were unaware of and try to reach a better understanding of yourself.
When I am criticized I feel uncomfortable. I not one of those people who feels comfortable in confrontations and I feel a wave of relief when its over. The last criticism I gave was to a friend of mine regarding a situation she had asked me advice on . I feel to when I going to criticizing
someone I try to be as constructive and gentle. I think this makes the listener more open and at ease with the criticism you are giving. It never easy to feel like someone is judging you and telling you that you might need to better yourself. We want the person we are criticizing to feel we are only trying to help them.
We each have different listening styles and my listening styles is people oriented. I try to find a common interest and move from there to different topics of conversation. I try to understand the person’s perspective, even when I might not always agree with it . This helps you to be open to different perspectives and a better understanding of the person you are communicating with.
. Our different listening styles can also be linked to our personality types. I think how we listen to others also determines how we want others to hear us.
I think that there are some listening misbehavior that limit and constrict our of communication. These misbehavior are Pseudo listening , monopolizing and selective listening . Pseudo listening is when we pretend to be listening and monopolizing take the focus off the speaker and redirect conversation to themselves. When you are selective listening you only focus on parts of the message. ( Interpersonal pg 140-141) This is something we have all done once or twice, if we realize it or not we lose the message trying to be conveyed. This goes to the how are you going to communicate on a higher level if you refuse to listen to what is being said.
Good listening skills is an important skill to have when working in your future career and when you are in college. This can be linked with the LMX theory , which explains the process of relationships development between superiors and subordinates. (Interpersonal pg 317)
I will use my experience of working in a daycare this summer, as an example.. The atmosphere
of the school was that the employees shared responsibilities and they worked together to help each when things became overwhelming. This can be connected to the LMX theory on how peers in the workplace are usually a support system for each other. It also examines the relationship between superior and subordinates. In using the example of working at the nursery school during the summer , the relationship with my boss was one of dysfunctional superior subordinate relationship. She didn’t give constructive criticism , it was more of her lashing out. Though I tried to establish open communication to better the situation, nothing prevailed.. This made me not want go to work in the morning and created a hostile work environment.
This type of work environment leads us back to Maslow Hierarchy of needs and how this effects what role our jobs full in our lives. What we do as job effects the way we view ourselves and it gives us a source of fulfilment.. What job we have takes up large parts of our life because we are invested in our job it effects our lives. When you have a bad day at work you come home grouchy and when you job is not fulling , you feel restless. A job can be an extension of yourself and when it lacks something we need , we go looking for something else. We want our jobs to give us self actualization and feeling of achievement. We want it to help us define who we are.